“There’s not a man with a soul that’s alive that doesn’t want to be admired by the woman in his life. Not one.”
I recently wrote a post
about seven things you may not know about
your wife. It was a popular post and I committed to write a
companion post for the wives.
Here
are seven things wives need to know—but may not know—about your husband:
His ego is more fragile than you
imagined. I know, you’re probably tired of
hearing about the male ego. I get it. But it hasn’t gone away, and, frankly,
the world isn’t too kind on our ego. We see the jokes on every sitcom and
commercial about how inadequate we are at times. But there’s not a man with a
soul that’s alive that doesn’t want to be admired by the woman in his life. Not
one.
He is very visual. Very. More than you are probably thinking.
You see his eyes roam. That’s a natural reaction for him. He doesn’t have to
work on it. Now he has responsibility over his eyes—not the girl who attracted
them—but if there’s a pretty girl around, he probably saw her long before you
did. And he likely battles staring more than you will ever understand.
He doesn’t want you to be his mother. You can say “Ouch!” if you need to, but men
want a wife, not a mom. I hear this from men frequently—especially young men.
If you’re a mom, they want you to be a great mom—just not theirs. I know we
need mothering sometimes. All of us do. We may even act like big babies at
times. But mothering a husband never works. Ever. Be our partner. Our best
friend. Not our mother.
When you correct him, you hurt him. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t need correcting.
He might. But the way you do this is huge. Your respect for him is huge for
him. His greatest emotional need. That could be in how he fixes the bed—or the
fact that he doesn’t—or for things far worse. If he senses you are talking down
to him—not respecting him—he may comply with your wishes in actions (or not),
but inside his heart will be growing colder toward you.
He loves you uniquely. He probably won’t love you all the ways you
expect him to love. And, frankly, he won’t be all the love you need him to be.
He may not always feel love as an emotion as strongly as you do. Your heart is
capable of much more than he can fill completely. There will be times—hopefully
even seasons—when he does, but no man will meet every need of your heart.
(Other than the man Jesus.)
What he does really is who he is many
times. It’s his identity. If it’s golf,
his career, fishing, antique cars or his extensive comic book collection—that’s
a part of him. When you miss that or don’t value it, he may feel like less of a
man.
He probably thinks you’re more
wonderful than you think he does. He
probably thinks higher of you than you do. How you look. What you’re able to
do. He wonders how you keep up with everyone and everything as you do. He
may even envy that about you. And he has a strong desire to protect you because
of his view of you. He respects you—probably more than he knows how to
communicate to you.
Guys, anything you would
add? 
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