Are you single or dating someone you
think may be the one? Or do you have kids who are dating and may be
thinking wedding bells at some point?
If so, you may want to consider the
importance of marrying before moving in together or of teaching your kids about
the pitfalls of shacking up.
More and more couples are choosing to
move in together before marriage. One reason is to save on rent. Yes,
saving on rent. Saving on rent is not, and should not be, a reason to live
with someone who may or may not become your spouse. In fact, it is a
really bad reason. Below are five reasons shacking up is a bad idea:
1. No blessings from God. The Bible
considers shacking up the opposite of a legitimate marriage. A legitimate
marriage consists of a union between a man and woman who have made a covenant
and commitment. Shacking up involves neither. Marriage was a union
created by God and is a union God blesses.
2. Your relationship will probably end. An article on examiner.com states that 80 percent
of shacking-up relationships end before marriage or in divorce after
marriage. So, it is 80/20 against you getting married or staying married
to that person. One reason is because there is not a commitment when you
move in before marriage. A relationship without commitment will not last, and
marriage is the biggest commitment you can make in life.
3. Your children will be negatively
affected. To the parents who have children, your kids are three times as likely to be expelled from
school or get pregnant, five times more likely to live in poverty, and 22 times
more likely to be incarcerated—all because you choose to live with someone
you're not married to.
4. It makes you lazy. As a married man, I
know that once dating ends, the relationship changes. Living together removes
the "being your best" part of your relationship. Kind of like
most job interviews—you wore the suit to the interview, but once hired, you
show up in khakis and a polo. And if you're living with a woman and getting
some of the "benefits" of marriage—sex, having someone to help around
the house, sharing the bills—you can also get lazy about taking the next step
in your relationship.
5. Saving on rent. Mentioned
above.
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How will you educate your adult
children about the dangers of shacking up?
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